Now I want to sell it because he left me with no income or support and I was thinking of moving out of state and its no longer mine. [Read: 12 Ways Narcissists Narcissists Use Social Media]. He told me he knew this but that it was a flight and it never will last long. This will have to suffice. Whatever the future holds in store for us I dont know I do know that every fiber in my body loves you tremendously and I cant wait to see our relationship grown and strengthen. I dont think it is necessarily a reflection of there being more male narcs (although statistics say there are?) I love seeing myself through my eyes imagining how I look through your eyes. I thought I had finally gotten over the crazy woman syndrome, and in fact had dated some very cool women over the last several years. Thought of ruining and losing my family and friends, makes me strongly to desire to change my behaviour. When things sounds to good to be true they usually are. Fast forward to one of our first big fights, he wanted to invite her to our wedding, I said I did not want her there, and he got very upset and said she was his friend and she would be there or else 7 years of our relationship, she was always there for him during our troubling times for him, I never had any type of friendship extended to me.This was the beginning of unforeseen trouble. He however has alluded to pot and cocaine use. Mine was of all things a Still, my perception is she is NPD, and btw, just like in your situation, her last move happened when I expressed: I wish you could be tested for NPD. Do you know the scorpion and the frog story? He has to live with this 24/7 negativity in his life. The ex-wife and her husband didnt want to have any relationship with him. If the other parent is a demon then we have a moral obligation to let our kids know the truth. Sometimes they come back to see if they can still mess with your mind but once they see you are on to them and they cant convince you to side with them anymore, they usually slither away. He was at her house thats up the street from me having a party. If your narcissist ex discarded you and just disappeared one day, it was because your behavior was so intolerable, they had to get out. When I say Im in love with you, I mean Im in love with being your sun, monopolizing your orbit, being your gravity, keeping you drawn back to me no matter how hard you try to jump or fly, keeping you down. He actually told me, She is the total opposite of youshe is sooo nice, laid back, and she adores and worships me! Now, this is from a man who always made fun of me for being TOO nice and TOO laid back! These Narcs hold power over you only if you let them. Every time I started to walk, shed want me back in her life so badly. Thats why to get many of them in the same group is no surprise to professionals, so the term psychopathic mob was coined, and what me and you are in, is known as character assassination. You will find that you will have good days and then feel like youre back at day one. He will know how tough life has been, Id hear how HE didnt hear back from me, hes found an amazing new partner and imply how alike she is to me. It doesn't matter if you're the mother of their children. But since you used no contact, your ex is not annoyed by you. . He was cruel the first week, he was just heartless. Instead he tried to destroy a familial relationship I held dear and he succeeded in that.. not that he's aware of that. I dont know if i ever hear from him again. I called the police. Yesterday i missed him so bad i almost texted him!! He forgot about the online accounts and when he called a month ago, I let him know I knew where his new address was. Its been six months . But he always had something nasty or condescending to say. I have gone no contact but he always seems to find a way, I am strong and have no intentions of ever letting him gas light or hoover me back to his destructive way of contorting the truth and blaming me for everything and then in the next breath telling me how much he loves me and misses me and can we please go on holiday together when this pandemic is over. I also want you to know that Im not angry with you, but I am sad some and I do miss you. After he made me look crazy in October 2016, I now have PTSD. They lack the emotional depth for that kind of empathy..and to be truly sorry they would have to recognize that they are the cause of someone elses pain. Not many people know what Narcissists are. Trust me,in hind sight he leaving would hav been the best of pa be. They get satisfaction from watching us suffer. They will even compare the level of supply they get from different partners. n.b. He attempted a hoover January 2020. Here are 10 things a narcissist does when you start to use No Contact with them: 1. . That person may reach out to the narcissist, puzzled, to find out what happened. If you will just act like his friend for the sake of his image, then all will be well in his fake world. Yes, I truly thought she may have been my soul mate after all, although even then I was skeptical at how extremely clingy she was. I thought we had resolved our differences. Until then I never knew that such a disorder even existed, let alone the effects on my thought and actions. No time or space for other people. What an incredible article. Instead, my advice would be no contact, forget him and find something that could love you back. He began finding hobbies and interests that would allow him to escape from the home, friends would call for help and there he would run. Upon finding this information I did what any crazy: spouse would do, I went looking for answers. Jamie, if I were in your shoes, I would file a restraining order, citing the information you shared here. Many things keep us bound to narcissists far longer than they should. We separated in August 2012 four days after our daughters 7th birthday after him striking me so hard I thought hed broken my jaw/cheekbone. We broke up 9 months ago and it has taken this long to get him out of my system to the point where I can have a normal life. Stay strong and dont disrespect your own integrity by acting like his friend for his egos sake! He started so many arguments before bed and then would just roll over and sleep while I lay there in complete anxiety. It worked! For the next 6 weekends she disappeared, and each time id believe her story on where shed been. So this is a Choice them make You are correct- they are driven by the need to control- not the need to connect and love and help, things that inspire so many of us. However, he did do the character assassination and tried to make me look like the crazy one. Never picked the Phone up and answer my messages. This whole crap about us teaching others how to treat us is bogus and only applies to people who dont carry around a moral compass of their own. Answer (1 of 4): First of all, I recognize that you have feelings: you feel sad about being away from someone you cared about. I was only with my ex for four months, continued being friends with her the next eight months, and I am still suffering psychological pain from the incident. So pretty sure this last year has been my growing beyond his crap year, so I could be strong enough to leave him in my dust. In DSM more traditional view they both go to Cluster B, alongside with few others. Then proceeds to tell me his ideas to address the problem. I will help myself. That I was done. My narc has ignored me for 9 months until last week when he approached me about our home. Thanks everyone, and keep fighting the good fight! Over two weeks ago I found the courage to tell him through the phone that I needed distance from him and exist by myself (not blaming him for anything as narcissist hate that), and am moving out of the house he was paying for.and even if I am extremely limited financially and i do not have a car for the moment. I had PTSS at that time from it. Im so scared for her! However, in relationships with Ns, lack of boundaries and low self esteem are a common denominator. Reading Suggestion: How to make a Narcissist Obsessed With You? I left my Narc after finding out about other women and he was stealing from people that he was supposedly doing roofs for. Let me know hey. Now i wrote him yesterday those angry mails. My daughter picked me up n took me to the hospital where I was admitted n stayed 8 days. He kept his ex gf pining after him and would act as if i was being insecure, when really he was instigating the attention he would receive as a means to look more desirable. I f you think your ex is a narcissist, chances are they're probably not. then I found out why. He told me that I should message her. Thank you for sharing Johns talent for capturing what is at times lost in the fog (see what I did there referring to another of your great posts). Ha ha! Unbelievalble. I kindly asked him to leave my property and he took off like a 2 yr old having a tantrum. About 95% of the time we got along terrifically and truly enjoyed each others company. Warden I now have the keys!! Just because you are no longer married doesn't mean that life after divorce from a narcissist is going to be total freedom. As someone reminded me yesterday, "Getting no message, is still a message!" Block and delete his phone number. At this point your Narcissist has gotten what they wanted - contact. I was sleeping there for two nights. Saying they had to end it because they were a victim of your ways and not the other way around. The therapist that was to support me said ,you need him. Aside from that, he seems to have all the blue-print traits of a Narcissist and its very unlikely things will EVER improve. She posts all sorts of things on Facebook making her seem like she is wealthy , champagne pictures etc and how happy she is. YOU OWE ME . I felt good that they had my unconditional love, but they dont care they dont truly love you back, they just love the fact we fell for it, to use us in every way they can. Well after reading these messages.. With every transaction, theyll claim they only want to see you happy. It almost seemed like he wanted to punish me and treat me like I didnt matter anymore (and made sure I noticed). Sex was punishment because i put him out . He lies about the present, he tried to make me think I was crazy about the people he talked to. I meant that sometimes really nice, trusting people lack adequate boundaries. I bent over for her and put her above myself and my surroundings, out of pure love and kindness that I genuinely felt for this girl. Sent back a nasty email. As I read it, many common themes emerged. But it became a pattern where I felt like crap for whatever reason with her put downs etc. There is nothing going on. But i wanted him back . You pre-emp. I loved him beyond belief. Or maybe the narcissist humiliated or degraded us even further or rubbed new relationships in our face. I need the help and pushed the other friends faraway. I had full custody of my children.I couldnt recover from the damages. First, it can be almost as if our lives are on hold, awaiting this conditioning we have been subjected to over the years. With every transaction, theyll claim they only want to see you happy of your Ways not. From him again of ruining and losing my family and friends, me. 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